Start preparing for Mothers day
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Start preparing for Mothers day |
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Some of us can sometimes forget the amount of time, effort, care and love that mothers give their children. Hour after hour, day after day they are on duty, yet we sometimes overlook that and think about where they slipped up, or what they didn't do for us. Mothers day can be a special time to acknowledge mothers for what they have done. Your own mother, other mothers, mothers of family, relatives and friends. Fathers, you can also acknowledge the the mother of your children. Yet mothers day can often be just another missed opportunity to celebrate and say the things that we really want to say. How can you prepare for that day? To make mothers day a day of celebration, there may be some thoughts, feelings or uncompleted business from the past that can be completed before that day. Do you really know what would be the greatest gift for a mother to receive? What most mothers want is for their children to be responsible for themselves in their own lives. What they do not want is for their children to be blaming them for their life not being the way they want to be. They do not want their children making their mother or what she did or didn't do an excuse for not getting on with their life. Almost everybody is at least in some way dissatisfied with at least some aspect of their upbringing. Father was not there for me. Mother wasn't there for me when I wanted her. Or maybe she didn't give us our space when we wanted it.. Yet it can be easy to forget the many times that our mother was there, and what other things she had to deal with in her life at that time. We can have feelings of anger and sadness about what happened years ago. Now is the best time to own those feelings as our own, and stop blaming our parents for our feeling that way. Sometimes that can be difficult. The hurt and the pain can be very deep. Sometimes counselling can be a great help, especially if we feel like lashing out at our parents. There are many benefits of doing this work of completing the past with our parents. For yourself, it frees you to enjoy other relationships in your life in stead of setting up your partner, your boss and other people in your life as your parent and having the same gripes about them as you have about your mother or father. You can give your mother the greatest gift you could give her on mothers day. You could tell her you love her, and really mean it. And you could start living your life in a way that both you and your mother could be really proud of - even if you are not living it in exactly the way your mother wants. You may not really know or fully understand your mother. You may not fully accept or appreciate the way that person is or was years ago. Getting to know her is likely to be easier and more satisfying while she is still alive. You have more time to enjoy and appreciate her if you start sooner. There is less risk of it being too late. You can hear from her in her own words how she experienced some of your earlier interactions with her. By understanding the way it was for her, it becomes easier for you to give compassion and acceptance. For those of us whose mother is no longer living, it is still possible to visit her graveside or even just think of her and say how much you love and appreciate her. If you give a gift, flowers, a card, pay a visit or even just a letter or phone call for mothers day, the gift will be so much more appreciated if you take the time and the effort to know and understand the person who you are celebrating on Mothers Day. Some other resources Counselling At Bridge Road Florist you can buy flowers for somebody (or yourself) any time of the day or night.
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| The above is a sharing of my own personal experience. Your experience may well be different Please be responsible for your interaction with any persons or organizations mentioned on this site.
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